Right, first things first, you can't and won't please everyone.
There is nothing you can do to change than and eventually you will not want to change that either.
Your unique qualities are what make you who you are and make you stand out online to the tribe that loves you.
But in that first stage of building a business and showing up online, you will start to grow and transform, which can leave your loved ones and friends wondering if you are 'changing' and 'not who they thought you were.'
This is something that so many of us face and will 100% experience along the journey to building an empire, but there are some simple mindset tricks I want to teach you, to ensure you don't get bogged down by this stuff and stuck in worrying about what they think and their judgements of you.
1. The right people will give you the right support
This one is HUGE! and the most important of them all.
When you are surrounded by people that genuinely have your best interest at heart and want the very best for you, they will support you through the changes, the sacrifices and the celebrations. Your support system, your genuine support system will want to be there through every stage of you growth and evolution and they are the people to cherish and honour.
Find the people that align with you, have the same passions as you, dream like you do and aim high like you. Nurture these relationships and become one anthers biggest supporters - we all need that!
'No man is an island' after all!
2. Remind yourself of the person you want to be.
If you have to change to suit others and fit in with how they want to behave and live, but this isn't how you actually want to be - then keep this in mind.
You want to feel like you can be yourself and that is ok!
Be very clear with yourself on the qualities you want to embody and the persona you want to enjoy.
3. Their judgements are not your judgements
When people walk away from you, judge you, don't agree with what you are doing, have opinions that are negative - and the rest! These belong to them, they do not belong to you.
Do not take accountability for their judgements and opinions because they are theirs. It may sound harsh but it is true. If you take on board everyone else's opinion, you wouldn't leave the house!
Ask yourself these questions when you receive judgement or feel upset/unsettled by someone else's comments of actions;
- Was I happy before I heard this information?
- Was this person even on my radar before this?
- Would I change what I have done or my decision before this opinion?
- Why did you do what you did in the first place?
- What is your intention?
These are thought tracking shifts you can use to refocus you and ground you back into where you want to be and why you have done it. This is what truly matters - your intention and your purpose, not someone else's judgement of you.
4. Work upwards
Every relationship in your life serves a purpose and guides you to lessons you need to learn.
Are you allowing yourself to evolve and connect with people that push you to be your very best?
Are you seeking new relationships with people thriving and achieving and you can share and grow together?
Remember that relationships are 2 way and just because old ones may be filtering away, that does not mean that you can't build new ones and find new people that float your boat and bring you into your highest vibe state.
Always work your way upwards, to new relationships, new challenges, new lessons and new people - this will also allow you to keep focussing on where you are going NOT where you have already been!