So many of us are affected by what other people think of us, what they say about us. Their opinions impact us so greatly and sometimes they even influence our future decisions, how we behave and the life we then choose to live.
In a recent Facebook Live I spoke with great passion about why we MUST stop absorbing those judgements.
I speak about 3 main reasons people judge you;
1. They don't know you
People judge others so freely when they have no personal connection to them. With that being said - why let someone who doesn't know you affect how you live your life and who you are?!
2. They don't share your beliefs or interests
So if someone doesn't like what you like, laugh at what you laugh at, enjoy what you enjoy - why are you bothered by them?
The right people give you the right support, so spend time with people who support you, love you and embrace who you are.
THEY are the people who matter.
3. They feel threatened by you
When we make a judgement on someone else, it is our own insecurity showing up. So when someone judges you for being good at something, succeeding at something, showing up and making your life better - take a step back and ask yourself why this might be?
How are things in their life right now?
Tips I shared to help you overcome these unwanted judgements;
- Nobody else can MAKE you feel a certain way
If you choose to let it affect you, that is your choice. Nothing anyone else does can affect you, if you choose for it not to.
Listen to your own intuition and emotions and focus entirely on those - these are the feelings that matter most to you.
- Don't absorb their negative energy
If someone wants to judge you, let them. That is their negative energy, negative thought and negative mind-set and you don't need to be help victim to that. Leave it at their door.
- Focus on the people you love and care about
Their feedback will always come from a place of love and support, with your best interest at heart. These judgements should be listened to and taken on board.
Anyone else - that doesn't hold an important role in your life, is not a judgement you need to consider or take time to question.
Always remember - you know yourself, you know your truth and you know what makes you happy. No judgement should change that for you.